I sympathise because we have many similarities. I’m of the opinion that there’s no point risking destroying your relationship or at very least causing huge upset – and basically hurting someone you care about. I just accept its something that I can’t share with mine and keep my Dee side well away from her. If I broached the subject it’d cause nothing but anguish and life’s just too short. Yes secrets are bad but are you harming anyone, no. Are you being unfaithful, no.
Good luck x