Hello and welcome Bee Dee! The first and most important thing you will learn on this site is that you are NOT alone! Your story sounds so similar to many I have read here, including my own. Take your time with your SO and respect her wishes. Pushing her into situations she is not comfortable in approach ready for will only hinder any possible progress. Some of never get past the don’t as don’t tell stage and others get the opportunity to live full time as a female with their spouse’s blessing. You have to do what’s right for the both of you. Have fun exploring here. Ask questions and continue to share stories.