There’s this voice in my head that tells me I’m selfish for wanting to tell her. It tells me that my secret is something that’s wrong with me. I have to consider that maybe this voice is right. On the other hand, I think about truly being free. I know real freedom is more rare than us Americans want to believe. The question that keeps coming up for me is whether I am willing to lose my best friend and soul mate over this piece of me. This piece that wants real freedom. It’s a huge decision. Again, thank you for sharing. I am genuinely sad about hearing that it did not go well for you. I hope that she or he can compartmentalize this one day like we can. Your insight is invaluable and your dreams are valid and important. I don’t know you but I want to send you my love and concern. Oh and if we are ever found out at least we are pretty as f***!
You are not selfish for wanting to tell her. As a matter of fact honesty is rarely selfish. You’re right about possibly losing your best friend and soul mate. It just isn’t worth the risk.
If I had it to do over I would have kept my big d@#$ mouth shut. Quite possibly one of the worst mistakes I have made in a long, long time. The consequences of telling her are just about more than I can bear at the moment. If it all goes south I will have to bear the burden of I ruined one of the best things in my life by telling the truth. Not to mention the fact I will have driven away the best woman I have ever encountered.