My situation deteriorated for quite a while after she found out. Any time she was losing an argument (not even related to crossdressing), she would blackmail me by threatening to expose me. We were having plenty of problems before, and this just added fuel to my fire.
At one point, with counseling, she asked me not to crossdress and I asked her for something really minor and inconsequential. When I saw that she wasn’t willing to change anything, I went back to crossdressing and found a place near me that does transformations and had my first real outing. Within 6 months I started attending parties (at the home of the woman who did the transformation), and she became a bit tolerant.
But by this time we had already decided to divorce, although it didn’t happen for another 10 years, first due to waiting for my youngest to reach 18, and then because of the housing market collapse, we would not have been able to sell the house and pay off the mortgage, let alone other fees, movers, etc.
It’s funny how she was so against my crossdressing, despite always telling me how she liked “man-tailored” clothing. It was perfectly all right for her to want to wear men’s clothing, but not for me to wear women’s clothing.