When I was in college and began dressing and going out. I met other CD’s I dressed and partied with. After college I didn’t dress for long time. When I began again, I had the benefit of the internet and found a local lingerie shop with crossdressing clients. I met up with them. We dressed, got makeovers, talked, shared stories and experiences, supported and encouraged each other, took photos and some of us went out.
The I was introduce to Femme Fever by one of the girls and began going to Femme Fever events. They have parties and meetings. I think if you can join up with a group like that, you can find many of the things you are looking for. You meet someone at a party or meeting, what you do with that person after that is up to the both of you.