I agree completely with other’s advice of “move forward” –there’s plenty of fish in the ocean, thank goodness you found out before marriage.
This guy’s been lying to you and he’s confessed (more or less) only to what he’s been caught at. Guarantee he is holding back/hiding more from you. Guaranteed. 100% guaranteed. And he’s not going to change his sexual impulses or fetishes, no matter what he might promise you.
Chalk one up to life experience and move along, find a new guy.
I’m not there yet. I can’t at the moment. It’s all too painful.
I do agree about him hiding more.
He’s told me he doesn’t use the sites to meet people. I kind of believe that. Or maybe I’m inclined to believe it? There’s definitely more, but i’m sure that it’s like it’s removed from ‘real’ life for him and not quite ‘real’.
That’s actually neither here nor there really – the mechanism of it and the explanation of why.
I’m so tired I can’t even string a sentence together or a rational thought together any more. I’ve had no food in 3 days and only slept a few hours each night.
All I can think of is the last night I fell asleep before I knew all of this. And how different my world was.