After reading through all the great responses I have little to add that hasn’t been said.
What I can say is although my wife is supportive and accepting she absolutely does not understand, at all.
And as I am still relatively new to acknowledgment of this part of me, I can’t offer much in the way of answers for her. Thankfully we’re both naturally curious and there is a TON of info out there that can help us shed some light on the subject, but for every answer there seems to be two new questions.
When I first came out I didn’t know what to expect and almost 2 years in, I still haven’t figured it out, but we are at least a little bit clearer on where the boundaries are firm and where they’re flexible.