I no longer have to fear being discovered, but the results of coming out are still coming in.
My dearest wife seemed to have been surprised (I was not caught per se, I confessed, or had the talk). It was a bit of a shock, but looking back she agrees the signs were there…. Hmmmm… All it seemed to have needed was a trigger for her to know, and I provided it.
Now, the interesting bit… I came out to my adult daughters. All expressed surprise at the time and pretended that they hadn’t any idea…. Well recently my youngest suddenly gave me a liquid magnetic eyeliner out of the blue and told me that her friend knew about me…. Why? (Panic levels 10!… Warning! … Warning! …. ) Arrgghhh!
Turns out she had some suspicions previously and had discussed her ideas with her friend, so I had been caught (after I’d come out to my wife, but not to my daughters).
The moral of the story: Even if you’ve been caught, it may be sometime before you are made aware of being caught, during which you may be blissfully ignorant of this.