my wife and I have our usual, doesn’t mean boring lol, sex as husband and wife. My wife is a good sport when I am jill but the two worlds don’t crossover. Jill is responsible for her own pleasure. It seems to work but to be honest I would love it both ways but I have to respect her limits and keep the beauty of our matrimonial love separate. maybe that will change but we have a rule. Jill never goes anywhere new unless we are both comfortable with that. This seems to be working well.