Clearly you misunderstood me, or you’re trying to twist my words. I simply said “Obviously a crossdresser cannot simply shut off his desires” you can’t be trying to argue that, the urge never goes away, only intensifies over time. Conversely there are many women who have managed to gradually modify their thinking after having the talk and gone on to have very happy marriages.
Stephanie, believe me I never would try to invalidate yours or anyone else’s feelings. I hope you find the right answers to your questions. I’m here for you if you need help.