my personal experience was much different. I am currently 60 years old, and I found the great pleasure of wearing women’s clothing about 4 years ago. I’m have been married for 31 years and just recently told my wife. She didn’t take it at all well. Her words, I’m a deviant, she married a man, etc.
I can’t even wear heels for fear that if she appears in the same room, she says that I’m shoving my cross dressing in her face.
I hope and pray that your wife will be more supportive and accepting as time goes on.