Surprisingly, she is really cool about all of this, she definitely had her boundary’s while we together, but I told her recently I want to explore this side of things for me. And she gets it, It also helps that I have full custody of our daughter, and she is on supervised access through me due to the reason we split up (her drug use). But even if it wasn’t for that I really don’t think she would be petty enough to go and tell everyone and their dog. We have had our issues for sure but she has always respected my privacy.
As for my Dad, that might be a little ways off yet, I am still trying to figure out how to bring it up to him. I am also worried he would tell my brother and judging how he reacted today to his kids painting my nails while I was secretly loving it in drab, I don’t think I really want him to know.