Hi Betty Lou,
I just posted this same reply to Grace’s comments but welcome your thoughts about it as well:
Women wear men’s clothes so why can’t men wear women’s clothes? In my opinion, the trouble with this line of reasoning is that we cross dressers do not just limit our activity to wearing women’s outerwear. Rather, we go for the full transformation with wigs, makeup, mannerisms, etc. And you can bet that women wearing trousers are not sporting boxers or tighty whities underneath – again, not so vice versa.
So I think this is crucial difference in “cross dressing” as practiced by the two sexes. Just my opinion, of course.