Just keep working it – get an image that you love to see in the mirror, that makes you smile, and you will make others smile too.
It’s a question of when, not if, so relax and enjoy the ride.
You’re right to be wary, I’m very wary too – but at the same time, I treat every stranger as a friend I don’t know yet, and I expect them to respect my boundaries, or I’ll know they’re not a friend.
It is possible to relax and have fun, yet be on your guard – I don’t know how Laura does it, she’s a stronger person than I would be in male mode, that’s for sure!
But in male mode, I never have women coming up to me declaring that they love me – like I say, it seems to be a real passion for some.
I’d suggest keeping such an enthusiastic approach at arm’s length until you’ve hung out with them for a while. If they really lik like you and not just your glamourous image, they’ll wait and go along with you.
Disclaimer: this is just a suggestion, based on my own experiences. I’m not a relationship guidance counsellor, I’m an IT consultant!