Hi Amanda, honey
Thanks for highlighting some more grey areas!
I addressed a lot of this with my reference to icebergs.
There is no way people can share everything before getting married – or even in a lifetime. Humans are much too complicated.
It is not OK to not accept cross dressing any more than any other personal attribute – although it is OK to have that clearly stated upfront as a no-no.
Some women will nag their husbands about all kinds of things, like “I wish you wouldn’t leave your clothes on the bedroom floor”.
Well, I did before we were married, why does being married mean you can order me about on such things now?
>begin pointless argument.
I’m not being deliberately controversial, as many cross dressing men think stupid things like “I’ll give it up when I get married”, or “I’ll say nothing”. I know I did.
There’s no betrayal of trust or anything else – I didn’t disclose my love of Bourneville chocolate either.
If cross dressing is such a big thing to a woman, then the onus is strictly on her to make that absolutely clear BEFORE marriage.
I cannot see it the other way around.
A man cannot predict that his wife will be accepting of cross dressing, just not in her husband.
That simply isn’t a given any more than a man may demand that his wife dress a certain way once they’ve got married.
So, Amanda, I’ve just ripped into the reasoning there, not you!
Maybe I missed a point and am being selfish ‘ maybe we can refine this down a bit and end up with the truth?
Never stop reasoning!