Sorry for shocking you, dear!
I’m just trying to express the processes I’m conscious of – I don’t judge people on their appearance, but I cannot stop myself from making some kind of rapid mental assessment of the appearance in terms of personal appeal – and one is free to choose to search for and concentrate on the bits that do appeal.
Of course, she’s my beautiful wife and always will be, and the appearance is not important to me although I notice and assess, it’s the vision:
They say love is blind, but I disagree.
When you truly feel love for someone it is visually transformative, and the “reality” of the appearance is actually of no importance whatsoever. The reality is yours.
That said, when she’s made up and dressed up for an occasion, wow!!!
That’s the loveliest sight I have ever seen and no-one can top that!