Hi rebekka Lets all be honest, most of us chose to hide a part of us that needed to be expressed one way or another. We may have wished it would go away after marriage but most of us can attest it does not. In fact it gets more intense as we get older. It has been my experience the more we support and show our love for our SO by just being there for her in times when she needs emotional support. Showing how much she desired in the bedroom. Complimenting her on her choices of clothing or changes on hair color or style. When she feels fully supported and loved by you i believe she maybe willing to compromise on your choices of how you want to express your self. She may even want to help at times. Your SO has to be your priority not the girl in your head. When your SO feels she is in competition or her needs are being ignored why would she want to compromise?. Most of us want our needs to be cared for first because they are so important to us. When your SO feels truly loved and supported as the only woman in your life. Then and only then maybe the time for a discussion about compromise about how you would like to express our self. If she decides she still does not want any part of it then you have decisions to make. You can continue to hide and deny those feelings and live a life of secrecy as lot do here or find a in person outlet where you can share that part of you that is so special. Ladies. the desire to express your self in the feminine does not go away it is just apart of you that needs attention and has to be accepted firstly by you and hopefully by your chosen partner in life.