When I read threads like this, my overriding hope is that we can treat each other with some compassion. This is not a forum for shaming. I hope it is a forum for learning and understanding. For some, the issues and circumstances are very clearly defined. For others, the issues are more complicated. For many of us beliefs, inculturations, rationalizations, needs, wants, curiosities, desires can be in conflict with each other. There is nothing wrong with that. I believe that allowing for complexity is an important part of understanding humanity.