Lots of times, a wife or gf, will get all excited about being able to dress up her guy. At some point, she realizes that your dressing is serious. Like forever increasing serious. For her, it’s not fun anymore.
Your femme side is competing with her for attention. She’s losing her guy to another woman. That’s her position for you to consider. She’s your #1 lady and there isn’t a #2. Treat her as such and good luck.