As I have assumed my feminine self for so many years now, I feel that the distinction has been blurred quite signicantly.
The current and previous occupations I have held are closely related and require Grumpy to be more visible, but my ‘feminstincts’ are never shut off totally. As intimidating as ‘he’ needs to be sometimes, there is very seldom a tsunami of machismo to get the point across to an individual that their behavior needs to be adjusted somewhat. While my feminine way of observing now gives me the compassion I need to keep that flood of emotional reaction in check unless sorely needed.
Sometimes it can be hard to keep a feminine outlook, but I experience much less of ‘him’ as time goes by. For that, I am truly grateful.