I think you are possibly busted Andi and if not your position is now much more difficult having not come clean. It is always a problem when coming out that it has been a secret and difficult to justify in retrospect even to ones self. She certainly didn’t help with the weird comment and I’m sure the time didn’t feel right. However unless you think this may be a phase that you will put behind you at some stage it’s a conversation that will need to be had at some time. In the meantime I’m sure you now feel a need to be careful in what you say and do which cannot be nice for you. I do hope it settles well for you.