Is peirceing your ears out of the equation ?
When I mentioned having my ears pierced a couple of years ago as my birthday present. She was absolutely, 100% against it. At the time she didn’t know I am a cross dresser. Last year, I told her I was a cross dresser, and she then called me a deviant.
althought I would love to get my ears pierced, it won’t be for a while, until I get up the courage to just do it and my wife will have to deal with that decision.