Wow! Taylor, I am in awe of the attitude you expressed in your post. It sounds like you are trying. I hope your CD husband can open up to you.
Crossdressing and some of the other things you mentioned that he/she might be into, can be extremely difficult topics to openly discuss, even if one side seems to be accepting. Personally speaking, it was hard to admit some things, even to myself. And I don’t know how much my wife knows. It seems that any sign of feminization on my part, draws negativity, leaving me having to hide it all. So we have never talked much on the topic.
Might I suggest, that you show him your post and use CDH as a way to start a conversation?
I hope you two are able to bridge the divide and have soulful talks about your and his needs.