When I met and moved in with my wife to be, she was a full time teacher, and I wasn’t gainfully employed, so it made sense for me to pick up a lot of the chores and child minding to make her life easier. There would be a meal on the table at the end of the day, the washing got done and simple things like that. The kids were a little bit older, so I didn’t get into the ‘young mums’ circles.
She was definitely the ‘boss’ when it came to life at home together with the family in one sense. But I definitely wasn’t the ‘wife’ – she always joked that when we got together, she acquired another child 😉