I am not a professional and can barely sort out my own feelings on this subject but I will share my experience.
my wife was involved when I started exploring wearing woman’s cloths and having my feminine feelings expand.
At first she was supportive but as I started acting more femme it turned her against it.
It got to the point I thought we were gonna divorce and di put a stop to our intimacy unfortunately.
I had to make a decision and I knew I was always thinking about girl stuff and I wouldn’t be able to stop.
so I had to tell my wife this.
I love her very much but I cannot stop.
I have seen from other girls experience that purging doesn’t work and its a waste of money and energy.
what level of femininity is different depending on the person.
If I could I would love to be full time femme ,but this wonderful life I have built as A man keeps me from doing that unless I hurt a lot of family and friends so I am in the closet with family and friends except my wife and my new CDH friends.
every girl here has to find their own center to how they can get through this life .
I hope you find your center.