My children (all adult) have been told about me and 2 who still live with me see me all the time. Often they are normal clothes, but I do have some more fetish outfits too. When I knew I was going to get a divorce, was going out often that they would find out, I decided right away I wanted to tell them when the time was right. I didn’t want them to “find my stuff” and never be able to ask questions about it rather than be surprised.
As far as toys, they’re adults. I have seen evidence that one daughter has toys too. I didn’t push, I didn’t question, I didn’t investigate. I respected her privacy. I don’t see why it wouldn’t go the other way. We may be their parents, but we’re human too. If they find toys, they would probably just put it in the trash. I’ll be dead, so I’m not going to be embarrassed.