Your experience has been mine… truly devastating. I suspect that a woman can come and go on this, going from totally accepting to insisting their BF or hubby eradicate all thoughts of dressing, let alone dressing itself. They may just discover they cannot tolerate it, they may think we love ourselves more than them, they may be persuaded by counselors and friends who have not knowledge of the subject and no tolerance, or they may think we could change if we wanted to and really loved them and were not so selfish… probably a combination of the above and more. But the 180 flips are VERY common, even among wives who have participated actively in support groups and helping their husbands become more feminine in appearance and presentation. I know many who have had this experience.
I am hoping that as society becomes better educated women will come to realize that being CD is not a choice, and that CDs, BECAUSE of their sensitivity and love for all things feminine, make excellent life partners, with longer marriages, I believe, than are typical.