I am very similar, I think there is room for everyone. There definitely is for me.
I recently had an opportunity to dress completely and go to a small party then out to a club. I tried it, and it was fine but I did not get as much out of it as some of the others. Now the lead up to it. The dress shopping, shoes, lingerie. The trip to the nail salon were all glorious.
I am very glad I tried it. Now I am back to me. And I occasionally underdress. I love strolling around my home in heels. I am perfectly satisfied with it.