Jen,
I’ve been in a similar situation, and I have some thoughts for you:
1. You can try a chastity device to control your urges. Hide the key somewhere where it wouldn’t be convenient to retrieve. Or, invest in the device that is app controlled and set a timer on it to gain some control.
2. Practice using willpower. It’s not easy to deny yourself when you are dressing or looking at CD content, especially when you’re young like you. But if you can deny yourself for a few days, then approach your wife, all the pent up urges will flow out.
3. Try ED pills like Viagra. Take one, then either dress or look at content. Then approach your wife. The pill will maintain or reestablish your arousal and allow things to progress. I think of this as “letting crossdressing pump up the tires, but letting your wife ride the bike”.
In any event, you can help things by being deliberate – have some wine with her before bed, move the kids to their room and lock the door. With kids you have to plan and execute the plan, or it won’t happen. Hope this helps.
Stephanie
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