A great question and some fascinating answers. I love this site for allowing us to discuss these issues.
Firstly I dress with my wife’s knowledge when she goes out for a reasonable period of time, so it is probably about once a week fully, wit makeup etc.. But I underdress maybe two or three times a week.
What triggers it is harder to define. The underdressing is just part of me I think, I enjoy the idea of a little secret. But, the need to dress fully is definitely always lurking and as others have said it is a compulsion, like many I have tried to stop. I now accept I can’t because I am probably gender fluid, although I only like women.
I do think the more you chat and go on crossdressing websites the stronger the need is. I am not particularly under any stress, but it is definitely the case I am more easy going and relaxed after and during dressing. My wife has even noticed the change in me. Is that because I am not stressed about wanting to or is it some sort of stress release mechanism. I don’t know. It is as quite self re-affirming, I like to see myself in a skirt and think ‘yes this is me’, in many ways I like myself more as a girl. I guess there is also a minor sexual element, but not anything I act upon, perhaps it is just because of feeling good. Again, my wife says I have become far more sexual since I came out to her. So I think, in summary, because it feels so good and so right, but also as a stress valve.
Lastly I was intrigued by those who say they dress more in the winter. I understand that and think it is because many of us like to feel nylon on our legs. Plus it is easier to shave them in the winter because we don’t wear shorts.
Natasha x
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