Hi Stevie, this is a good topic! I believe that since cis women have a multitude of ways to present themselves, that falls under the presentation side. How many cis women do you know who always wera full makeup every day, especially if they aren’t working fulltime outside the home? But every one of them identify as a woman, no matter what clothes, jewelry, or makeup they wear. As far as living as a woman, the cis women just live their lives assured in their identity regardless of presentation.
So, I guess it could be that just because some of us present a little less feminine (or a LOT less – giggle) we can still identify and live our lives as a woman regardless of what clothes, jewelry, and makeup we wear. It’s more than just an attitude or feeling for a lot of us, because those can change. It goes to the core of who we are as individuals.
A transwoman always feels like a woman inside regardless of the outside. Unfortunately we’ve been conditioned by society that the outside dictates who we are, not the inside. Which is a huge source of the dysphoria and bigotry we experience. If a cis woman was forced to cut her hair super short and wear “masculine” clothes, no makeup ever, clunky shoes, and still be expected to fit in, she would just wither, be closed off, and be dysphoric too.
So don’t worry about how feminine you are outside, just be thw woman you are on the inside!