Have you tried going out in Northampton? I’m sure since you are from MA you already know it is very gay friendly, and has a high concentration of lesbians out and proud. My CD hubby and I went there for a day trip last year. It was one of the first times I went with out him while he was full on en femme (prior to that was Ptown for a weekend). We actually picked it because I thought given its reputation it would allow me to feel comfortable and safe. And it is doable for a day trip from our home. Though I still felt a bit self conscious at times (that’s on me) we had a great day and no one batted an eye at my Katrina. Walked the town, went into most of the shops, had lunch, went to a CBD outlet, no problems. We were even addressed as ladies by the waiter where we had lunch. Which I’m sure you ladies can attest to was a thrill for hubby.