Assumptions definitely are a factor here. People assume crossdressers are gay. crossdressers assume people are going to assume they’re gay, and are on the defensive. it’s tough because when you are trying to understand your gender identity, it is complicated in the first place, without anyone else making prejudgement.
My understanding of my gender and sexuality have evolved greatly over the years. I used to dress in more of a kink function; now I understand there’s a part of me that is Kate, and she’s more than one thing. I used to feel I was bi curious, or only thought about being with a man when dressed. But, I’ve come to realize that, regardless of how I’m dressed, my attractions are my attractions. All of me is pansexual. It’s all me. I’ve found a bit of peace in that. I am who I am. and yes, that’s Popeye. But that doesn’t make it untrue :).