As far as knowing if you are indeed trans, I have seen a psychologist at diffrent times (twice now) to help clarify that question for myself. Theres a simple test consisting of ten questions the therapist can ask you to determine if you are or not. I foundcthat I personally am not. So,im a,non-transitioning cross-dresser and likely to remain so.
Nothing wrong with asking a professional opinion.
Love, Aurora B.