I feel as though I helped create the problems. I used to try and want to be a better than the women I was the day before. Not so much anymore. Nothing and I mean absolutely nothing has ever been for me. I planned a trip to Vegas, last November…. It was horrible. The level of selfishness anytime we are intimate… Is laughable.
I seriously doubt that you’re contributing to the problem or are in anyway responsible for his actions or lack of action. Some people are just selfish a-holes and it sounds like you married one. Which means he was this way before you ever came along. Perhaps, demand counseling or get a divorce asap. You don’t need to be with someone so insensitive as to laugh at your depression. It’s not healthy for you to be in such an unloving relationship. I hope you find a good and healthy solution and find the happiness you deserve. And for accepting his cross dressing, thank you. Women like you are too rare.