Let me just say that if I had a wife as wonderful and understand. A wife that takes the time to come to CDH to found out more about her husbands habits, in a good way. That allows him to continues to live that life he enjoys. Well we should all be that lucky.
He has no idea how lucky he is to have you. Unfortunately it sounds like you don’t need him or the luggage of his family either. I can tell you love him and you are afraid to leave the relationship that you try so hard to understand. If you have gone to a councilor and other avenues without any changes then hate to say it but, you can take only so much.
We all wish you luck, but from what you said, doesn’t seem like he’s changing is ways anytime soon.
We love you and your efforts as well. Thank you for sharing.