Bummer on fathers day. I too dressed less for the day, my gf noticed and asked, “cuz its fathers day not mothers day” we and my daughter laughed.
From what you’ve written in the past, she already has a good idea of who you actually are, she’s just shall we say unappreciative of it and thats unfortunate. You probably should have an honest conversation about it if you plan to continue with your rights to growing and being happy with yourself. But, theres a pretty good chance of raised negativity from her side.