Hi Karli, yes and no! My wife and i had been seeing a wonderful therapist for close to three years but couldn’t break through because I could never tell anyone about the real me. A year ago i finally came out to my wife. The therapist nudged us towards acceptance but the wife wouldn’t get there. A couple of months later i came out as trans. We reached an impasse and since we were both seeing her individually she referred us to a therapist who specialized in our issues. Every session has been extremely traumatic for one or both of us, and my wife just dug her heels in and refused to accept me. We do still love each other tremendously but just moved in to separate apartments. i feel like the new therapist steered us towards this by suggesting maybe we couldn’t fix it, etc.
So it basically depends. Neither therapist gave us much concrete to work on and almost every deep discussion ended up in a tearful end with no resolution.
I hope you have better success than I, but unless you both want a positive outcome it’s almost impossible for CDs and trans people to stay together.