I “owner up” to my ex shortly after we were married. The old “go down like a lead balloon”was not in the race. She hated it from that day on and eventually, 20 years plus later, was a main reason for the divorce.
Lucky for me my job involved lots of domestic and international travel, so that’s when Caty would emerge in the safety of her hotel room. (Tho she did venture out quite a bit in the later years) .
New and loving So found some of my jewellery about five years into her relationship. So nett result,big case of “DADT” “she knows but does not want to know”… We sleep in separate rooms and Caty’s lingerie and some of her clothes are” in plain sight” in my chest of drawers and wardrobe.
But she stumbled across some breast forms some years back and just does not go in there anymore