Hi Jackie. Welcome to CDH. I hope that some day you are able to tell your wife. Women are very caring, nurturing and loving so hopefully she can see that you are still the person she married just that you like panties and dresses. Before I told mine I ordered her some panties and added in 1 boy short in my size and her size to have matching panties. When they came I made a joke of the one in my size and she asked me to wear it then gave me some more panties to wear for her. I told her the truth the very next day.