No doubt you have found a lot of information from various sources, both good and bad. Take it all with an open, but questioning mind. This is a god place to learn because it offers a broad cross section of dressers who all come to it with different perspectives.
One of the first and biggest questions I hear from wives/SOs is “is he gay?” The answer is almost always, “no”. Yes there are gay CDers, but the vast majority of us are not. We may be a bit more open minded about gender and such, but cross dressers are no more likely to be gay then the general population.