I have do disagree with your initial premise of what a “real man” is. Real men do not have to be the caveman you seem to think they are. I look in a pretty woman in a dress and think wow, what a beautiful woman and I would love to pursue her if I were not married. I do that dressed or not. I also look at how she is dressed and think both that it complements here well and whether I would look good in in. I honestly think a lot of “real men” fantasize about women’s clothes, there are just not man enough to try them on.
“In other words, there are differences between real men and us, which is just fine.” No, there is a difference between you and your definition of real men, please do not lump us all into your category. No doubt many here feel as you do, but that does not make those of us who think differently not “real”.