Tried to reply before but finger slipped; too much eggnog. OK its early in the season. While I agree some things are best left unsaid (can’t say I have found any with my SO but I’m sure there are and I have thrown her some real curve balls which she just shrugged off; previous heterosexual relationships) with the right simpatico a heart to heart may bring a mutual understanding. And there is little to loose.
Hope you can work it out as it seems you both have a lot in common apart from the CD. Best. Marlene.