After a lot of soul searching and study, conversations and exploration, I finally landed on bigender, a nonbinary gender identity that simply means you have two distinct gender identities. ANY two. In my case male/female.
This resonates with me, but it makes words like ‘crossdresser’ a little problematic because I’m not crossdressing, I’m wearing the clothes appropriate for my gender expression. It’s all so squishy and messy, just like me!