Thank you for the welcome! I know exactly what you mean about the elephant in the room. That’s how I describe it too. We simply do not talk about it…I’m the one who will bring it up and she will avoid the topic, even at counselling. The few times she has brought it uo is when she tells me she wants me to get rid of anything so that no one will ever find it. I keep all my clothes and accessories locked up in a cabinet and only I know where the key is so there is no chance the kids would find it. The funny thing was that she was sort of OK with it before I showed her pictures of me. In fact she one time helped my buy a pair of boots at Target. I think she thought it was just a fetish that I liked to put on SOME women’s things, not get fully dressed and made up like one let alone go by a femme name. I guess time will tell whether she comes around and is willing to compromise. I actually feel she loves me but hates Monica.