Hi Julia, it’s nice to meet another girl in the land of 10,000 lakes! Welcome to CDH. If you need help ask and you shall receive! Hope you can slowly bring your wife on board. I can’t offer any advice there as I have been single for a very long time although she might have accepted. None of my later girlfriends knew. Relationship advice is really not my forte, my life is that of an older single woman, but I enjoy it. If you wish to chat drop me a line.