Hi Holly, well, I understand what you’re asking, but as has already been suggested, the problem with the term ‘feminized male’ is that it historically and still currently has the attachment that some outside body, be it female or male assisted in some way (from I would guess 1% to 100%, although I would suggest closer to the higher number) you in becoming feminized.
Now you may have wanted it, but again, it could also (at least to how I’ve read about it) be in the range from 0-100%.
As such, the term unfortunately also suggests that there’s some element of being forced to some degree and that there might be some elements of fetishistic behavior involved.
But I also accept that your definition can have validity. The problem is that that phrase is tossed around way too much and has too many connotations along with it to be viewed without some unsettling emotions or negative feelings.
I accept that I’m transgendered, which to me means that I feel or believe or accept that I’m female inside. So, does that mean when I dress that I’m trying to feminize myself? Does that mean when cis-women put on typically feminine attire that they are trying to feminize themselves? I just don’t believe they do. They’re just trying to be themselves and dress to their own innate desires.
But that’s just my personal thoughts. And a thought-provoking poll it is!
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- This reply was modified 1 month ago by ChloeC.