Caty, I do feel for you and the other ladies out there having to live the same way. I am lucky to have a some what of a supportive wife, so I do have a little more freedom. I never put much thought into it when it comes to laundry, I do my own and she does hers. About 40 I was doing our laundry together, when I mixed the whites with something red, and for some reason she’s not as fond of pink as I am, and since then, she does hers and I do mine. I’ve always under dressed, and when I get home from work I change into a sheer cami under an unbuttoned shirt but I don’t go any farther than that. We still talk about my being able to dress more in full and of course I’m hoping that will happen some day sooner than later. But it just goes to show just how strong the feeling is in us, for us to want to present this way, that some of us in a close relationship are willing to live in a closet with the door tightly closed. I’m wishing all of you in that closet that Your SO will open it for you someday, even if it’s only a crack, just enough to let the light shine in.
Wishing you all the best