Reply To: Perplexed

[Danielle Anaya]

Jessica, I would bet if you tried to put it away, like most of us, you won’t be able to. How or if you tell your wife, is a gamble. Most wives, like mine, won’t be able to accept this new person we’ve become. The potential for devastating her feelings is great. As hard as it may be, if you haven’t been discovered yet or you haven’t done the great reveal, you can keep doing what you are doing, or try to stop altogether. The latter I think will be near impossible now that Jessica is out of the bag. From my own experience and reading the responses of others on this site I think we are all or have been in your heels. When my wife found out and revealed my secret to the world, most of my friends and family cut ties with me. I have made new friends since then who only know me as Dani but they are few. Only my sister, who discovered my secret early in life helped develop Dani, a few long time female friends and a few cousins are still in contact and accept me for who I have become. Our thing is still not acceptable to most people and can be a lonely journey.