Reply To: Being stealthy, or blending in, which path?

[Kim Dahlenbergen]

I discovered this weekend that I have “passed” as a woman. The proprietor of the wine bar I visit on occasional weekends made remarks that confirmed that she believed me to be a woman. This came as a complete surprise to me, because I had presumed that despite my best efforts to blend, that i was seen as a transgender person.

So, I am left with the choice. Do I clear up the misconception or simply go with it? My feeling is that I have no obligation to announce my gender to her or anyone else. If I am perceived as a woman, then that is great and good. Let it always be so!

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